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[Jake84]

Speedy and full recovery @BravoZulu pneumonia is something nasty.

@Jake84 should this thread be renamed Sick call?

Some guy told me that S**t literally start to fall/break apart past 40 years old which the majority of us here are. Alas! Tis the thread to complain about our poor health, or various conditions.

 

[Bombardier]

Update to the last:

Seems I now have pneumonia in my left lung. Off work until it's good to go again. On some heavy antibiotic and Mersyndol for pain relief and sleep as I haven't had a decent sleep for 8 nights

Onwards and upwards!

Stay strong and rest well brother, hope the meds take effect very soon

 

[Bombardier]

Speedy and full recovery @BravoZulu pneumonia is something nasty.



Some guy told me that S**t literally start to fall/break apart past 40 years old which the majority of us here are. Alas! Tis the thread to complain about our poor health, or various conditions.

Hands up who is under 40. I will get my coat

 

[Connaught Ranger]

My father's died from pancreatic cancer tonight.

We'd been estranged for quite some time, he was a very violent man. Still … strange feeling.

My Sympathy's for your loss. My own father was a hard man always away from home working as a scaffolder and playing the field, he bought the family to Ireland to live back in 1968, a few years later started wandering off to work in the U.K. never bothered to return to Ireland to fight his case against his brother who took money from him for a house and allowed my mother and brothers to be evicted onto the street, met him in Leatherhead working on the M25 with a couple of his brothers in the 1980's he never bothered coming home to my Mother funeral when she passed from cancer and I lost contact with him, sometime in the late 1990's he died up in Scotland and his brother bought him home to Ireland and buried him, never got to visit his grave up till now.

 

[Bombardier]

My Sympathy's for your loss. My own father was a hard man always away from home working as a scaffolder and playing the field, he bought the family to Ireland to live back in 1968, a few years later started wandering off to work in the U.K. never bothered to return to Ireland to fight his case against his brother who took money from him for a house and allowed my mother and brothers to be evicted onto the street, met him in Leatherhead working on the M25 with a couple of his brothers in the 1980's he never bothered coming home to my Mother funeral when she passed from cancer and I lost contact with him, sometime in the late 1990's he died up in Scotland and his brother bought him home to Ireland and buried him, never got to visit his grave up till now.

I was gonna just leave an an emotion icon but felt compelled to reply, that's a sad story my friend and I hope that you have, now at least made peace with your father.

 

[NebrHogger]

Muck, I'm not good with condolence messages, but I do hope you're now able to sort some things in your mind about him.

My own father left home at age 14 due to an alcoholic, abusive father. He was not a 'spare the rod' kind of parent, but he did leave me with values that helped me a lot in life.

 

[LimaCharles]

Muck, I'm not good with condolence messages, but I do hope you're now able to sort some things in your mind about him.

^^ This, Muck my condolences as well.

My father was an absolute ass. When both my mother and my sister are telling me that my parenting is polar opposites with our father, it makes me smile with relief and also sadness because there's not one thing of wisdom from my father to pass down either.

 

[Fluff]

^^ This, Muck my condolences as well.

My father was an absolute ass. When both my mother and my sister are telling me that my parenting is polar opposites with our father, it makes me smile with relief and also sadness because there's not one thing of wisdom from my father to pass down either.

a bit like bosses, some I just learn what not to do. Still a lesson.

 

[Junglejim]

Condolences Muck

 

[muck]

Thanks again.

@Fluff, @LimaCharles & @Jake84

Some wise words about parenting there. You know … at the risk of sounding melodramatic: Whenever I hear some asshat do this whole "acknowledge your privilege" routine, I can only marvel at how badly they're missing the point. The way I see it, being privileged has nothing to do with the colour of one's skin or even one's family's wealth. No, an intact family and being in good health – that's being privileged.

My Sympathy's for your loss. My own father was a hard man always away from home working as a scaffolder and playing the field, he bought the family to Ireland to live back in 1968, a few years later started wandering off to work in the U.K. never bothered to return to Ireland to fight his case against his brother who took money from him for a house and allowed my mother and brothers to be evicted onto the street, met him in Leatherhead working on the M25 with a couple of his brothers in the 1980's he never bothered coming home to my Mother funeral when she passed from cancer and I lost contact with him, sometime in the late 1990's he died up in Scotland and his brother bought him home to Ireland and buried him, never got to visit his grave up till now.

I feel ya. Well … the last time I'd spoken to my father (apart from mechanic hellos and goodbyes here and there) was six years ago. He threatened to push me down a flight of stairs. He suffered a stroke shortly afterwards, became bed-ridden and eventually came down with cancer. I helped my mother take care of him, but studiously avoided contact otherwise.

I know that his own childhood was anything but pleasant; he'd been born in '49 in abject poverty in a displaced people camp in Austria, where he ended up being raised by his paternal grandfather, a fervent Nazi. The fact that his mother's family were as fervently anti-Nazi can't have helped. He ended up with a violent temper and had never had a chance to develop any parenting skills whatsoever. I could've been able to deal with that; but he was also a pathological narcissist who'd push around anyone (both literally and figuratively) who failed to be of use to him at any given time. I've spoken to many people who knew him as a teenager and a young man, and they all swore his upbringing wasn't actually what'd ruined him. If anything, it just robbed him of the ability to see the error of his ways.

I was gonna just leave an an emotion icon but felt compelled to reply, that's a sad story my friend and I hope that you have, now at least made peace with your father.

I can't speak for @Connaught Ranger, but let me just say that at some point you just become apathetic. It's not necessarily a situation where you have to make your peace with the other person.

 

[Jake84]

I can open up a bit about this, since muck did, and some others.

My parents seperated when I was seven year old and considering the end of the relationship shitshow it was, I can’t say I really suffered from it.

Some interesting and thoughtful points about the privileged aspects of some in life muck. I’ve had my share of physical misfortunes which literally can happen to anyone, bad “luck” on me or whatever else.

However an abusive, violent father is quite something to deal with. How could I forget the moment when I was an admittedly unruly teen my father went on a serious rage punching me until almost breaking my nose. That’s NOT educating, that’s rage.

Naturally he always got away with it, later on threatened me again and some other things I’d rather not write.

Hence my relatable comment after muck opening up about this.

Worst of it is probably my father has little to no regrets about this, we never spoke about this incident again, but he really shouldn’t act surprised if I’m that distant today.

I am well aware I’m not alone in this situation, as BZ aptly mention, not every of us grow up in an ideal family made of toys and candies. That’s all I can write about it. He’ll turn 80 next year, and his last breath will come too. But I have no idea yet how I’ll handle that.

 

[OldGuy]

Early this evening around 5 o'clock I was sitting here at my computer and fell asleep, woke up as my head dropped. I shut things down and took a nap hoping I would wake up around 7 as I usually only nap for 2 or 3 hours. I woke up at 10 pm, not what I was hoping for because I knew I would need to get up. I hate laying there turning and tossing and not sleeping. So I got up and will piddle a few hours and then go back to bed, need to go shop in the morning around 9 and maybe I can lay down and get re synchronized in my sleeping. I had a bowl of rice and some store bought frozen meatballs with just a touch of sauce and my belly blew up like a balloon. Had a sharp pain in my chest and of course I knew it had to be the meatballs so I manually pulled up my gut from top to bottom and belched like a mule then did the same to the top of rib cage until all that excess gas was gone. I learned to do that when I had that terrible upper hernia which really screwed up my eating and digestion. I would have the same attacks just about every time I ate so I would do the same then and have immediate relief. Finally got that hernia repaired again a few years ago and it has been solid no problems. Only thing left is the kangaroo pouch hanging over the belt.

 

[Mike1976]

My father's died from pancreatic cancer tonight.

We'd been estranged for quite some time, he was a very violent man. Still … strange feeling.

Sorry to hear that Muck

RIP

 

[muck]

Thank you.

The funeral will be tomorrow, and I think it's gonna be a massive shiteshow. Other "troubled relations" will be there, too.

I think I do have mentioned this before – I have an elder sister with whom I'd used to be very close when I was a kid, she doubled as a mother of sorts to me until on one fine day she just ran off. When I tried to contact here for one last time (at age 14, I think), she had a friend of hers fob me off and made me out to be a dangerous ex-boyfriend of hers. Totally bonkers.

As if that wasn't enough, my father's younger sister (whom I likewise haven't seen in like twenty years) has already bombarded my brother, mother and me with complaints about the funeral ceremony not being "dignified" enough and that we should have let her run the whole thing. She never gave a damn about her brother and happily let the burden of having to care for him on my mother, and now she's complaining? That's just rich.

And it only goes to affirm the old saying: Blood doesn't make you family.

 

[downsizer]

Thank you.

The funeral will be tomorrow, and I think it's gonna be a massive shiteshow. Other "troubled relations" will be there, too.

I think I do have mentioned this before – I have an elder sister with whom I'd used to be very close when I was a kid, she doubled as a mother of sorts to me until on one fine day she just ran off. When I tried to contact here for one last time (at age 14, I think), she had a friend of hers fob me off and made me out to be a dangerous ex-boyfriend of hers. Totally bonkers.

As if that wasn't enough, my father's younger sister (whom I likewise haven't seen in like twenty years) has already bombarded my brother, mother and me with complaints about the funeral ceremony not being "dignified" enough and that we should have let her run the whole thing. She never gave a damn about her brother and happily let the burden of having to care for him on my mother, and now she's complaining? That's just rich.

And it only goes to affirm the old saying: Blood doesn't make you family.

All I would say mate is that you are not under any obligation to attend, nor stay for a second longer than you want. Sometimes things aren't worth the upset.

 

[NebrHogger]

Wifey had gone in for her annual mammogram, and the Dr told her he didn't like what he was seeing so she needed to come back in for a biopsy. She had breast cancer 27 years ago which we all thought had been resolved with chemo and radiation. It was a couple of pretty tense days waiting for the oncology report, but the Dr just called saying she doesn't have cancer - what he was seeing was scar tissue that looked different for a reason I don't understand. But it's not cancer, so I really don't need to understand.

To celebrate, we're going out for dinner with children and grandkids. I believe she means to get intoxicated!

 

[BravoZulu]

Thank you.

The funeral will be tomorrow, and I think it's gonna be a massive shiteshow. Other "troubled relations" will be there, too.

I think I do have mentioned this before – I have an elder sister with whom I'd used to be very close when I was a kid, she doubled as a mother of sorts to me until on one fine day she just ran off. When I tried to contact here for one last time (at age 14, I think), she had a friend of hers fob me off and made me out to be a dangerous ex-boyfriend of hers. Totally bonkers.

As if that wasn't enough, my father's younger sister (whom I likewise haven't seen in like twenty years) has already bombarded my brother, mother and me with complaints about the funeral ceremony not being "dignified" enough and that we should have let her run the whole thing. She never gave a damn about her brother and happily let the burden of having to care for him on my mother, and now she's complaining? That's just rich.

And it only goes to affirm the old saying: Blood doesn't make you family.

I really feel for you @muck , don't go unless you really wish to. There is nothing you will do or say that will change anyone's mind. Look after yourself first and foremost mate

 

[Jake84]

Hope the funerals weren’t that bad @muck if you did attend and I couldn’t agree more with BZ and @downsizer its ultimately up to you but don’t force yourself to endure such a mess especially as it clearly seems none of this is your fault in any way.

Glad to hear about your wife clean bill of health @NebrHogger.

As for me, I’m two weeks post surgery and doing well switching between rehab on my own (walking as much as possible usually in the mild and sunny weather in the am) and resting more treating my knee with ice bag in the afternoon. Slowly but surely healing and the chronic pain appears to be behind me. Ooof.

 

[LimaCharles]

Prayers for peace with you and yours, Muck.

 

[LimaCharles]

On another note, wife was mad at having no other choice but to take the long way and backroad back home from work earlier as small portions have still been blocked off as they're finishing the investigation.

I'll do a cut & paste from their page for the specifics as to why:

A TRAGIC REMINDER FOR FIREARM SAFETY – PEORIA MAN KILLED BY FRIEND WHILE CAMPING NEAR PRESCOTT

On Friday, July 26th, at around 10:30 pm, Yavapai County Sheriff’s Office Deputies responded to Yavapai Regional Medical Center in Prescott after receiving a call from a man saying a weapon had discharged and his friend was shot in the abdomen. When Deputies got to the hospital, they found the victim had been initially stabilized but had complications on the flight to a Phoenix-area hospital. During the initial investigation, Deputies learned the victim was going to be the shooter's best man in his upcoming wedding.
Those involved told Law Enforcement they were from the Phoenix area but staying at the UCYC Camp in Prescott. The parties went to a secluded area of camp and were shooting. After they were finished, and trying to make sure their weapons were clear, the shooter was pointing his weapon across at the victim and after pulling the charging handle back several times, the shooter “thought” the weapon was empty and pulled the trigger firing a .22 caliber round into the abdomen of the victim. Initial investigations at the time also showed no signs of impairment or alcohol consumption by the shooter.

In the early hours of Saturday, July 27th, YCSO Detectives were told the 22-year-old victim succumbed to his injuries and died after going through surgery. This case is still under investigation.

The Yavapai County Sheriff’s Office wishes to remind all responsible gun owners that they should seek proper instruction in firearms safety. They should understand the rules of firearms safety, including:

1. Always keep the muzzle pointed in a safe direction.
2. Treat all guns as if they are loaded.
3. Keep your finger off the trigger until you are on target and ready to shoot.
4. Be sure of your target and what’s around and behind your target.